No man is an island, so they say. But wouldn’t life be peaceful without all the drama that comes with relationships? I say, heck ya! But, the reality is we are a community, and we need to play nice. I always loved the 38 Special song, “Hold on Loosely” as a teenager. It was a reminder that relationships, people and positions are ok to have, but it’s not a good idea to use them as supports that hold us up. Disappointment after disappointment finds its way into our lives. Relationships and roles ebb and flow as we experience different seasons of life, but the pain of change is lessened when our attachment is not an unhealthy one. I define a healthy relationship with people and position as one that is of great importance, but that has a strong buffer between me and whatever or whoever it is.
That buffer for me is God. Deuteronomy 8:3 tells us of God and how he cared for His people when they wandered after freedom from captivity. This is just as applicable today to our lives and our survival.
"He humbled you and let you be hungry, and fed you with manna which you did not know, nor did your fathers know, that He might make you understand that man does not live by bread alone, but man lives by everything that proceeds out of the mouth of the LORD.
Now that I can swallow! Nothing I aspire to be and no relationship I desire to have is close to the relationship and trust I have in the Great I AM. He is holy and perfect. Therefore, His love for me is perfect. The foundation of my being is His relentless love for me, His acknowledging me as His child and His desire to sanctify me through His Word. Men cannot love this way. No acknowledgement or title given can come close to representing the value God has put on me as one grafted into His family. Stature, titles and positions cannot fulfill us, only the indwelling of his Holy Spirit. So, while I won’t become a recluse just yet, I am holding on loosely to everything except for the Father. He is and always has been the only thing that is sure and trustworthy.
The apostle Paul said, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8) I am filling my thoughts with such things and drowning out the voice of the enemy.
I am grateful today for the healing power of God’s love for me, and for my ability to extend grace to those who hurt me by their lack thereof. That is supernatural! And super magnificent. And God gets ALL the glory.